SS. Cosmas and Damian Parish
Congratulations on your engagement! May the Lord bless the foundation of this new family that is to be formed in the Holy Church. May you inspire others to live according to God’s love and fearlessly follow his calling to this beautiful Sacrament.
□ Step One: Call the parish office and make an appointment to have your initial meeting with Fr. Michael Stalla or Deacon Ed Chernick. NOTE: THERE IS A REQUIRMENT OF AT LEAST SIX MONTHS BETWEEN THE INITIAL MEETING AND THE WEDDING.
□ Step Two: At the initial meeting, you will clarify if there is a need for an annulment (previous marriage) or a dispensation (permission for a special situation). NOTE: NO WEDDING DATE CAN BE SET UNTIL ALL ANNULMENTS ARE COMPLETED.
□ Step Three: Provide the priest or deacon who is preparing you with an engagement picture, and any paperwork that is required, including a recent copy of your baptismal certificates.
□ Step Four: With the priest or deacon who is preparing you, the couple will choose the best set of classes or events that they would like to participate in order to feel fully prepared to make a life-long commitment of marriage. There are many options available at a variety of parishes in the region. You are required to choose only 16 credits worth of preparation. Join any of the SS. Cosmas and Damian Preparation Classes online by clicking here: Fr. Michael’s Meeting Room.
□ Step Five: Take the Prepare and Enrich Assessment. Contact the parish office to sign up for the assessment. After you have taken the Assessment, call the parish offices to make an appointment to go over the results.
□ Step Six: Call the parish office to make arrangements for the music at your wedding ceremony. Special arrangements for music should be discussed with the parish music ministry coordinator.
□ Step Seven: Set a rehearsal date and time. At the rehearsal, you will be REQUIRED TO HAVE YOUR MARRIAGE LICENSE. You will also provide the wedding liturgical plan at the rehearsal that will include the readings and participants that you have selected for the ceremony. If a visiting clergy will be present, arrangements should be made with the pastor of SS. Cosmas and Damian Parish.
Costs: We recommend a $600 gift, which includes musicians, preparation, clergy, and a gift to the parish. If you have any financial concerns, the traditional monetary gift can be waived.
|1||Make Appointment||Initial Meeting||The Canonical Assessment, explain the requirements, if necessary, prepare the dispensations, give the parish marriage policy, give you the liturgy planning material, and help you choose your marriage preparation plan.|
|1||Schedule||Wedding Rehearsal||Choose the date and time for the bridal party to practice the wedding ceremony.|
May 14, 2021
|Theology of the Body||St. John Paul II’s teaching about Adam and Eve, the struggle between the sexes, and the hope of Christ.|
June 25, 2021
|Three Loves||Fr. Michael explains Pope Benedict XVI’s teaching about how the word “Love” means different thing in different contexts.|
|2||June 11, 2021||Symbolism in the Marriage Ceremony||The meaning of Marriage as a Sacrament as symbolized within the ritual itself.|
|2||July 16, 2021||Vision of the Bridegroom||The ancient, and yet fresh, understanding of God and humanity as a renewed image of Bridegroom and His beloved Bride.|
|2||July 30, 2021||Recommitted to the Faith||Helping young couples who have been distant from the practice of their faith to take a conscious first step back into a community of believers.|
|2||Aug. 13, 2021||Two Expressions of the One Faith||Creating a unified family plan while respecting religious differences.|
|2||Aug. 27, 2021||Engaged and Living Together||Having an honest talk about the pros and cons of living together before marriage.|
|2||Sept. 10, 2021|
|Learn how to pray as a couple.|
|3||Make appointment||Prepare and Enrich||Go over the results of a compatibility and complementarity assessment.|
|2||Oct. 1, 2021||Raising Children Catholic||Addressing some of the challenges of a Catholic Identity for this generation and the one to come.|
|4||Apr. 25, 2021||Pre Cana Retreat||An all-day retreat with other engaged couples conducted by married couples. May attend a Pre Cana at another Catholic Church.|
|4||Schedule||Couple-to-Couple Meetings||A married couple conducts personalized consultation and lessons for the engaged couple. Only for those who do not do Pre Cana.|
|4||Feb. ?, 2021||Natural Family Planning- St. Mary’s Hudson||Couples learn the signs of fertility so as to prayerful plan pregnancies without the use of artificial contraception. At St. Mary, Hudson.|
|2||May 28, 2021||Marriage as a Vocation||Understanding the dignity of the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony.|
|TOTAL CREDITS (Choose 16 of 24 Credits)|